To all those who are alone or feel lonely
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| Georgina G.-Mauriño (1962) |
WHAT is the difference between solitude and loneliness?
When I met Carmen she had been living alone for a few years in the family house. Yet she didn't seem especially sad for that. She looked calm and spoke wisely. At the same time, she was fond of her things and we quickly realized those things were like her companions as they awoke memories of people in her life. Things, books, and music had become her treasures, almost like reliable close friends. Moreover, when my husband and I moved to the house for the summer, we realized that she had such a schedule for everyday! She had filled her loneliness with loads of wonderful activities: cooking, gardening, drawing, gardening, reading and listening to music... She was alone but never seemed to feel lonely, so that situation didn't seem to bad for her.  |
| Max G.Flat (1940) |
WHY being alone is neither good nor bad?
Let's clarify the difference between loneliness and solitude. "Loneliness is marked by a sense of isolation. Solitude, on the other hand, is a state of being alone without being lonely and can lead to self-awareness." It's all about how you feel: you can feel lonely even when you are with other people as you can really enjoy being on your own for reflection, engaging with yourself, in contact with nature and with all that you like to do. You can feel loneliness as a punishment, but no matter the cause, what if you stand on your side, start by loving yourself and make of your situation a creative experience...
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| Martha A.Flat (1998) |
HOW do I deal with loneliness when I am alone?
There is a long time I haven't felt lonely now. But being at school I can recall feeling extremely isolated when I was bullied at school... Fortunately, at home, they helped me understand that I had the power of feeling well within myself. I turned to my piano and my studies... Although at that time I was already interested in technology and my high school classmates were getting crazy with Social Media, I never considered it a solution for me (now I see they could have even become a trap like they became for other bullied teens). Sometimes what you see on Social Media can be hurtful and make you feel even more isolation. What saved me was self-confidence, with the invaluable support of my family, my friends at the school of music, my brother Max and my grandfather (thanks for that, grandpa!). Later on, this self-confidence helped me to adapt to many different situations, and also to know what to do in case I am alone or I start feeling lonely. This is what I do when I start feeling lonely: 1. I accept that I am alone, and this is a fact, neither bad nor good. 2. I acknowledge this is for some reason an I try to find the reason remembering that I am not necessarily the reason. Actually, when you feel lonely, you are the only one who can really do something about this situation: so you don't have to see you as the problem, but instead as the solution 3. I take action and make something positive of this situation... Remember those things you used to like doing? Well, just do it! Be creative! Start loving and caring for yourself!. Now, I leave you a video that I find can be of some help for a start:
There is a long time I haven't felt lonely now. But being at school I can recall feeling extremely isolated when I was bullied at school... Fortunately, at home, they helped me understand that I had the power of feeling well within myself. I turned to my piano and my studies... Although at that time I was already interested in technology and my high school classmates were getting crazy with Social Media, I never considered it a solution for me (now I see they could have even become a trap like they became for other bullied teens). Sometimes what you see on Social Media can be hurtful and make you feel even more isolation. What saved me was self-confidence, with the invaluable support of my family, my friends at the school of music, my brother Max and my grandfather (thanks for that, grandpa!). Later on, this self-confidence helped me to adapt to many different situations, and also to know what to do in case I am alone or I start feeling lonely. This is what I do when I start feeling lonely: 1. I accept that I am alone, and this is a fact, neither bad nor good. 2. I acknowledge this is for some reason an I try to find the reason remembering that I am not necessarily the reason. Actually, when you feel lonely, you are the only one who can really do something about this situation: so you don't have to see you as the problem, but instead as the solution 3. I take action and make something positive of this situation... Remember those things you used to like doing? Well, just do it! Be creative! Start loving and caring for yourself!. Now, I leave you a video that I find can be of some help for a start:
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